Hello everyone and welcome to another Coffee Date with Luna!
Today might be the day I receive backlash from some people because of my opinions but I do not care that much. It’s my opinion. You have the right to not agree with me.
Men are not walking ATM machines. Stop treating them like that. In the dating culture it is expected for the man to pay on the first date and it’s normal for me too. I am not going to lie, I expect it as well but the issue comes after the first date. There is a significantly increased amount of women and young girls who use dating as an excuse to get free food, drinks and gifts. I am not ranting about trends such as being a sugarbaby etc., I am actually referring to women taking advantage of men without them knowing that.
When you are a sugarbaby, the person paying for your lifestyle knows how the relationship works because it is consensual. What I do not approve of is girls dating guys, leading them on for their own personal gain. If a guy has a crush on you, likes you, asks you out, don’t use him to get free stuff, drinks and dinners. It’s time for these girls and women to learn that men are not here to be exploited.
I also think it’s inconsiderate of women to lead men on for personal gain. You are actually using someone’s love for you or affection to get something you want without considering you are giving him false hope. These situations always end up with someone being hurt, and it’s just not worth it.
As a person who has a full time job, I know how much I have to work to get my paycheck and I think it would actually be selfish and ignorant of me to date a guy and expect him to pay for our drinks, food, movie tickets etc. I am maybe the last person who should be writing about this since I have no social life and am not dating anyone because I am dating my job and blog, but this has always been my personal opinion.
I understand that guys are under the pressure that they need to pay for every date but that shouldn’t be the case. I am speaking from my own example. If I like a guy and I want to spend time with him, get to know him, I will always try to be 50/50. Some guys have been embarrassed when I would pay for our drinks and I understand their point of view but, according to me, men need to start respecting themselves more in this area. If a girl pays for drinks or something else, it is not insulting. It just means that she doesn’t mind paying because she is not there to get something – she is there to be with you.
There you have it. I am the girl that gets guys in uncomfortable positions and pays on dates. Probably, one of the reasons why I am single as a pringle.
I am sorry about not posting that much in the last few days but my laptop has been acting out lately. He just randomly crashes or shuts down but I am looking for a new one so I can work in peace.
Do share your thoughts on this subject with me and let me know what would you like to read about or discuss in the next Coffee Date with Luna! Can’t wait to see your comments and suggestions.
Sending love and positive vibes,
Luna
Yeah that’s why I don’t bother with dating before anymore, skip right through to marriage/elopement otherwise it’s not worth it after you are 30 and beyond.
One of those if you cannot decide whether you love a person or not within 1 hour?
Then they are not the one and just a waste of time.
But that may only work for psychics since in my case I just have to shake a persons hand to know enough which is also why I don’t have many questions, due to knowing the answers already.
Luna I totally agree with you. I think it’s selfish and despicable the way some girls and women treat and use men. It’s nice to be treated now and then but hey it goes both ways! God Bless and have a wonderful weekend.
Interesting point of view ^^
The best plan for payment is that: first date 50:50; second date 70:30; third date 90:10 and if happens family, after wedding always 100% for the husband. 😀
Personally, I think this is brilliant. It is refreshing to hear a woman speak about it with so much candor. Get that new laptop. You’ll be glad you did.
I agree 100% women should pay sometimes and men should be ok with that and let them!
To use someone is bad and to give someone false hope is even worse.
This is it right here
Agree with you 100 percent. I have faith that most women are not like this.