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Expectations

Expectations. That is a beautiful word that causes so much misery and leads to disappointment every damn time.

You can’t say it isn’t true. We constantly expect things and then get disappointed. We always expect for someone to call, care, do nice things for us and so on, and then we are just left disappointed when we realize that no one is doing anything for us.

Furthermore, mostly people get disappointed because they do various things to make some person happy, and then they wind up alone when they need help. I’m writing this because I’ve been going through something similar now but I won’t describe the situation since I don’t like to include people from my life into my blog so I’m just going to write down what I concluded out of this awful situation of mine.

Firstly, if you’re going to do anything to help someone just don’t expect they’ll do the same for you because most of the time they won’t. It’s sad but it’s true. Some people are just takers and they have no shame in life or the need to show any kind of gratitude towards the people who help them. You need to learn how to recognize those people and learn how to say NO! It’s a lovely word that many of us don’t want to say because we want to avoid confrontations or we don’t want to come off as rude people.

It’s bullshit! Stop making yourself miserable just so others would have a good opinion about you. If you want to do something say yes, but if you don’t then say no. It’s as simple as that. What is the use of making others comfortable and making their lives easier if you are miserable? For some people maybe it’s worth putting up with everything, but some of them just need to go back to their mothers so they could reeducate them because they are rude, disrespectful and ungrateful bastards.

My next conclusion is something I forget about often. You’re alone. No matter how many people you have around you, at the end of the day you’re all you’ve got so you should invest in yourself, work for yourself and depend on yourself and not waste your time on making others happy. This doesn’t mean you should turn your back on the world, this just means that you should be your plan A and plan B. Don’t sit around waiting for people to do something for you because most of the time they won’t, but it doesn’t matter because you are capable enough to take care of yourself. I know that the word alone causes a lot of fear but sometimes it can be positive.

Sometimes you need to go through the toughest time alone to stand on the top and realize how much you are capable of accomplishing with your own two hands. It’s an incredible power that makes you go further and gives you strength to just work your ass off. The day you learn to stand alone will be the day you become invincible.

Hug your friends, love your family, have fun, meet new people, but don’t make any expectations. Don’t get your hopes up and learn to stand alone.

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Wake the f*** up

WAKE THE FUCK UP! I just sometimes have the need to yell that sentence to people. I just don’t understand for how long do people plan on living a life that’s only surviving.

Firstly let’s analyze the sentence literally. You should actually wake up. Nothing will happen while you’re feeling comfy in your bed and looking at the ceiling. There will be no progress in your life if you keep on making those 5 more minutes an hour. Get up, eat something, drink a strong coffee and work for what you want. Success and accomplishment don’t grow on trees. Next time you realize you didn’t do half the things you were supposed to just think if that extra time in bed was worth it.

Now let’s look at it from a wider perspective. People are big talkers but when it comes to working almost none of us do what we say we’ll do. Life isn’t a story waiting to be told – it’s a story waiting to be written. While you’re sitting with your friends and telling them how you’re unhappy about something in life, what are you actually doing to change your current situation for the better? NOTHING, you’re doing nothing! Get your lazy ass up and start working to make your life better.

Why do we still expect help from other people? The number of friends and family members you have isn’t equal to the number of doors you can knock at when you’re having a hard time. I know it’s harsh but it’s the truth. If you want something earn it because as long as you owe anything to anyone you’ll never be free. Open up your eyes – nobody will help you unconditionally and you shouldn’t do the same. I don’t want to sound like an iceberg talking but when it comes down to it it’s every man for himself.

This is probably one of the most annoying things I’ve ever had to listen to. People who have their lives planed out – stop being boring! So society told you that you should get a degree, start up a family, have some kids, find a job, pay your rent and bills, send your kids to school, wait for their graduation, retire and then die so you just decided you should do that. I’m support your decision if you’re doing it because you want that life and because you’ll be happy living like that. The problem begins when you accept that lifestyle and feel miserable for the rest of your life because you always feel that something is missing. Venture outside that sketch that you call a life and find your passion. Don’t settle for less than you want. We live in a world where anything is possible but nothing is easy so work until you find happiness no matter what or where it is.

Stop living a static life and, for the love of God, stop waiting for things to happen. Work your ass off and never give up. You’ll probably go through exhaustion, depression, failure and it will all be worth it because you will eventually succeed but first you have to WAKE THE FUCK UP!

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Change

Change. The word itself causes so much stress and anxiety that some people fear it more than death. What is it so scary about changing that makes us paralyzed and often depressed? In this world where things change on a daily basis are we so scared to venture outside or universe and embrace the change?

All of these questions started popping into my head 3 weeks ago when I realized that I was moving to another city 400 km from home and that I won’t be studying at a college I wanted. I knew I will be moving out of my house and going to university and I was prepared for that but I wasn’t prepared for my plans to be changed and for me to have to encounter new people and a new environment.

I remember the night before my moving day. It was the first time in my life that fear paralyzed me. I fell into an old habit again – smoking. It was the only thing that relaxed me. So I was just sitting there, on the floor of my empty bedroom, with my cigarette, starring at my suitcases. Right about my fifth cigarette I asked myself: ‘’Why are you such a coward?’’

I cried during the ride to my new ‘’home’’ and at night I strolled down the beach all by myself. I barely survived the first night in my new bed. Two days later my roommate came and our parents went home. We were all on our own.

And then it hit me. I could sit here, feeling sorry for myself or I could make this work. Change won’t be scary if you don’t let it take over.

Be in control, make the change compromise and make it adapt to you. Instead of smoking one cigarette after another to lower down the fear, use it as motivation. Let the fear motivate you to become better and to prove to yourself that you are fearless.

Expand your horizons but don’t forget the views you had seen. The best way to make change adapt to you is to keep some of your old habits. For me it was breakfast time after which I make a big coffee for myself, work on my blog and read.

On the other hand I said you had to expand your horizons so make new habits. Make new friends. Just make new! Let the change slide into your life gradually but don’t let it overwhelm you.

If you manage to let go, but still pull all the strings, in a matter of weeks the change will become your everyday life. It will just blend in until it fully disappears and the fear will be gone with it.

I think that the main confusion about change is that we fight for it but we fight against it. The truth of the matter is that without change we would all be in the same place our whole lives and maybe that place is scary, dark and makes us unhappy but we still hold on to it because that place is familiar and in a way it makes us feel safe. It false safety and it’s false happiness so don’t live in it just because you are scared of change.

It’s easier to survive a change and fight a bit harder for a little while than to spend a lifetime in misery so don’t fear the change – embrace it!

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Black and white

Throughout my life I’ve learned one thing about me. I’m an extremist. I go from one end to another and the middle in an unknown area for me. It’s black or white, hot or cold, happy or sad. No middle. Even when it comes to the clothes I wear they’re either bursting with colors or they’re one colored.

It got me thinking about life. Is everything really black or white?

In terms of relationships are we allowed to have a gray area? Let’s say you have a boyfriend/girlfriend but you meet someone else who you also like. If you can’t decide what to do you’re standing in the gray area and you are running the risk of hurting two innocent people but if you picked one side, black or white, you’ll only hurt one person. It still isn’t perfect but it’s better than two. In my opinion relationships would be much less complicated if everything was black and white because when we enter that gray area we lose ourselves and we get confused about our whishes and feelings.

In terms of everyday life events we are surrounded by gray areas because the most demanding job is living. There are numerous options and we rarely know which one is right. To be honest none of us ever made a decision that we didn’t question a million times.

For example, you wanted a certain job but didn’t get it so you had to settle for something else. Are you in the black area and everything just went to hell? Even in my black/white opinion I think that sometimes we should just believe that we are in the gray area because there is still hope that we’ll step out to the white side of the story. Maybe that job is just a step towards something better, a promotion or some new job opportunities.

I’m no expert in life but I’ll just be honest. When it’s just about you wander the gray area, let yourself be lost and give yourself a chance to find yourself all over again. When you are running the risk of hurting someone cross the gray area and work fast because you shouldn’t hurt someone just because you don’t know is it black or white. Maybe you’ll end up hurt at the end but I think it’s easier to survive some pain than to live with your conscious and guilt every day.

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