Coffe Date with Luna: Gratitude

We are wrapping this year up with gratitude as we did last year. I gave you a few days to tell me what you are grateful for in 2019 and we have a pretty collection of pretty comments which you can read.

In order to say goodbye to 2019 on my blog, I just want to tell you all that the support I received in all of my projects and my blog in general this year has been absolutely amazing. I love the way you have made this a safe community for everyone to speak up and share their work here. You all show so much love in the comments to other fellow bloggers and writers that I am more and more grateful with each day for The Poetry Bar and for finally putting my heart and soul into this blog.

To be quite honest, all of you have been great friends to me in a year when my life was flipped upside down when it comes to my job, career, mental health, friendships and relationships. I often would feel alone when I was going through a hard time but that feeling became significantly smaller when I decided to share my thoughts, poetry and everyday life with you here.

For 2020 I want this community to grow and I want you to always be strong, even when you face hard times, to always stay positive and find light in everything. To all my fellow writers, I hope you all get book deals and remain being creative and wonderful artists. As for 2019, I can say I will remember it for slapping me in the face and making me stronger, wiser, more determined to succeed and it taught me that I can do more and that I am more that I think. I still have a long way before I embrace myself and everything I am capable off but 2019 surely made me face my fears and made me a better person.

Okay, I am done now. Here is what you all have been grateful for:

I am grateful for a loving family!  – https://southernwriter122051046.wordpress.com/

With coffee in hand, here goes…
I have much to be grateful for in 2019: a fulfilling career, a roof over my head, a warm bed, food on the table, good health, wonderful family, great friends, and someone special who has recently come into my life. I am also grateful that I get to give back to my community on a daily basis by helping those struggling to get by. I am grateful for this writing community where I get to share words with other creative types.
For 2020, I want to continue on this positive, forward moving path. I hope to be able to give more while continuing to make more great memories with those I love and connect with. Wishing you a wonderful end to this year and a beautiful year ahead!
https://surrealisticdreams.home.blog/

Grateful…hum always so hard when you live with anxiety and depression. But I’m grateful for the necessities. Both my wife and I are employed, we have an apartment and a wonderful cat. Despite the loss in key family and some illness in hers, family is still important. She’s still crafty and I’m still artsy. Goals for 2020: Find more fulfilling employment, continue on my weightless journey, go to that nudist resort on my 50th even if I haven reached my weightless goal, pay off credit cards, call friends more often and change my blog up a bit. https://aprolificpotpourri.wordpress.com/

I am grateful for my loving wife and family, health, a roof over my head, enough food to eat, retirement and the freedom it brings to travel in my own city, country and outside my country.
I have never been one to make New Year’s resolutions, but, this year I hope to make some progress in volunteering, reading, playing my mandolin and spending time with family and friends.
Here is my blog link https://blographytoo.photo.blog/

I am grateful for my family and the opportunities God opened for me this year. http://phiemyndz.wordpress.com/

I am grateful for the WordPress community in 2019 who supported me, enriched my life.
My goal for 2020 is to be with my love ones doing the most mundane and yet most extraordinary life together. http://flickerofthoughts.com/

One of the things I am grateful for are people like you : wonderful , kind, hard working , with dreams and with a drive to make them happen . https://andradal.wordpress.com/

I am so very grateful for my wife who grew up in the same story as yours. Thank you for having the strength and the writing skills to help lead others out of the darkness. https://mewe.com/i/garyedwards11

I finally got a job this year after a lot of struggle. It makes me independent, now I don’t have to remain dependent on others for money which is a very important thing in life as we need money for almost everything. I am grateful for all that I have.
Here is my blog https://believestrong.wordpress.com

I’m grateful for life. And everything in it. http://cityjackdaw.wordpress.com/

Family, friends and time spent with them is a the top of the list. Also, strolls in the sand at the beach.
A well made taco is uber-important!
After taking off a year from uploading photographs to my print site…I will start again with regularity. http://photographicimpressionistic.wordpress.com/

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My name is Holly and you can find me at Holly’s World (https://wordpress.com/posts/photogarphybyhcmorris77.com). I am mostly a photographer, but I enjoy other things as well – such as reading, gardening, and travel – although there is so much more

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Hi! My name is Holly and I’m the author of Holly’s World. Despite anything negative, I (usually) try to have a good outlook on life! Sometimes it’s hard, but I always find my way back! You can find my posts and pages here: photographybyhcmorris77.com

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Be kind to yourself

We hear phrases such as “Listen to your gut” or “Love yourself” everywhere. They are screaming off social media platforms, life coaches use them, we see them written everywhere but do we really grasp the concept of being kind to oneself and loving oneself and listening to our gut?

As always, I’ll start from experience. A few months back I got my bachelors in Italian and Spanish philology. There I was, all proud of myself for finishing the three years without failing one single class, with a title in front of my name and then the time came for me to start my masters which would have taken me two years to finish. That feeling… I’ll never forget that feeling. Every time I thought about going back to my university, spending hours in classes, studying, preparing for exams… It made me want to die. I had extreme panic attacks. My gut was yelling “Hell NOOOOOO”. I told my gut she should shut up because society and my family told me that the field I was in, which was foreign languages, was nothing without a master’s degree. So I listened to what others had to say and I started my masters.

The panic attacks increased. My health was deteriorating. I had to use every single piece of strength I had to pull myself out of bed and attend a single lecture. I hated the world. Negativity was oozing out of my skin. Then my gut decided to fight against my decisions in every way possible. I was never the one to oversleep. If my alarm went off, I was on my feet already making my morning coffee. All of the sudden, I started oversleeping. I wouldn’t hear my alarm and I started to miss my lectures. After a while, I started failing exams. It took me a while to gather the strength and say that I quit. Right then and there I placed the label “FAILURE” on my forehead in big, bold red letters for everyone to see. I called myself a failure.

I promised my family and myself that in a year I would enroll in a private university and start a masters in International relations and diplomacy which costs a lot of money but I came to an agreement with my mom that we would get a student loan from the bank. Since I considered myself to be a failure, I didn’t start looking for a job in my field of expertise because the part of my brain which told me I was a failure also told me that there are people with masters and PHD’s in languages, people who studied abroad who were better than me and that no one would hire me because they could hire those other people who weren’t failures like me. I got a job as a waitress. Regarding that experience I think it’s enough to say that I can’t count how many times I had to drink to make it through my shift but I considered my behavior to be okay because I was a failure.

Time passed by, my health was getting worse, I was making all of the wrong choices regarding relationships in my life and then it hit me. I hated myself and I resented myself so much that I was torturing myself at a job I hated and punishing myself just because I didn’t fit in with societies norms. The time came for me to get the student loan. I was depressed for weeks. I didn’t talk to anyone. I ended up in the emergency room because I couldn’t breathe normally. Life was just bitch slapping me and then, after months of banging my head against a wall and living just to survive I decided I can do better.

I quit my job and started a new one where I am somewhat in the proximity of my field of studies. I said no to the private university and decided to attend lectures in Digital marketing because this is something that gets me excited. How did this shift in my behavior happen? I started to be kind to myself.

I scrapped off that “FAILURE” label from my forehead and told myself that it took courage to drop out of school and start finding myself. It took strength to admit that I was lost and unhappy. It took fucking balls to take control of my life and start living it according to my rules. The shift first happened in my head and then it manifested in my life. All I had to do was give myself a pat on the back and tell myself that I am doing the best that I can and that it’s okay to take time off to find whatever it is that’s missing from my life. Changes aren’t painless. Changes aren’t easy but if during that change period you hate yourself and have negative self-talk you will only make things worse for yourself.

Do I know what the hell I am doing with my life? NO
Do I hate myself for that? Also NO

I still relapse into my old behavior patterns such as drinking, smoking and hating myself for not being the poster child for society norms but I also identify that behavior quickly and implement positive self-talk into my life. Don’t call yourself a failure and don’t put yourself down. You are so much more that what others think of you. Hell, you are so much more than what you think of yourself. Give yourself credit for how far you came. Recognize your mistakes and learn from them, don’t use them as fuel to the fire of your self-hate.

You need to reconnect with your inner world in order to start being kind to yourself.  You have to do this via a process that suits you best such as writing, meditating, exercising etc. That voice in your head that is trying to put you down will always be there, you just need to be louder than it.

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Does life have a second chance ? Well yes I have another chance . I was home one day when I realized that God has given me another chance to get things right . sometimes we feel like giving up , we feel like quitting , we feel down because of our past but I’m here to tell you that your past is  gone and you have another chance to get things right .

I used to shy of my past but when I surrendered it all to God I became free and now I can share my story without any form of guilt . don’t let your past hold you from becoming the best you.  I am working on me constantly and I thank God for everything that I have been through , it is all in his plan for my life.
Here is me , I was at a poetry show where I performed a piece by me titled “grateful “

Instagram link : Instagram.com/d_analyzt

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Here’s my contribution – a couple of pictures of my cat Honey with her new best friend and regular visitor to our garden. They often sit out together in the late evenings enjoying life!
My photography blog: https://stuartshafran.wordpress.com

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Positivity Press #41 – LITTLE GIRL

I chanced to glance
at a little girl of three
sitting nearby
in the pew:
she looked up at me,
an old man,
not comely to warrant,
and smiled a smile
bright as the spring sun
full on my face.
I could not refrain
reciprocation
and twisted a grin
in return, and found
ice melting,
stone warming,
stiff boughs bending.
Another glance
revealed
colored pencils scratching
intently
between the lines.

My blog address is: www.rabbitlaneutah.com.

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