Expectations. That is a beautiful word that causes so much misery and leads to disappointment every damn time.
You can’t say it isn’t true. We constantly expect things and then get disappointed. We always expect for someone to call, care, do nice things for us and so on, and then we are just left disappointed when we realize that no one is doing anything for us.
Furthermore, mostly people get disappointed because they do various things to make some person happy, and then they wind up alone when they need help. I’m writing this because I’ve been going through something similar now but I won’t describe the situation since I don’t like to include people from my life into my blog so I’m just going to write down what I concluded out of this awful situation of mine.
Firstly, if you’re going to do anything to help someone just don’t expect they’ll do the same for you because most of the time they won’t. It’s sad but it’s true. Some people are just takers and they have no shame in life or the need to show any kind of gratitude towards the people who help them. You need to learn how to recognize those people and learn how to say NO! It’s a lovely word that many of us don’t want to say because we want to avoid confrontations or we don’t want to come off as rude people.
It’s bullshit! Stop making yourself miserable just so others would have a good opinion about you. If you want to do something say yes, but if you don’t then say no. It’s as simple as that. What is the use of making others comfortable and making their lives easier if you are miserable? For some people maybe it’s worth putting up with everything, but some of them just need to go back to their mothers so they could reeducate them because they are rude, disrespectful and ungrateful bastards.
My next conclusion is something I forget about often. You’re alone. No matter how many people you have around you, at the end of the day you’re all you’ve got so you should invest in yourself, work for yourself and depend on yourself and not waste your time on making others happy. This doesn’t mean you should turn your back on the world, this just means that you should be your plan A and plan B. Don’t sit around waiting for people to do something for you because most of the time they won’t, but it doesn’t matter because you are capable enough to take care of yourself. I know that the word alone causes a lot of fear but sometimes it can be positive.
Sometimes you need to go through the toughest time alone to stand on the top and realize how much you are capable of accomplishing with your own two hands. It’s an incredible power that makes you go further and gives you strength to just work your ass off. The day you learn to stand alone will be the day you become invincible.
Hug your friends, love your family, have fun, meet new people, but don’t make any expectations. Don’t get your hopes up and learn to stand alone.
WAKE THE FUCK UP! I just sometimes have the need to yell that sentence to people. I just don’t understand for how long do people plan on living a life that’s only surviving.
Firstly let’s analyze the sentence literally. You should actually wake up. Nothing will happen while you’re feeling comfy in your bed and looking at the ceiling. There will be no progress in your life if you keep on making those 5 more minutes an hour. Get up, eat something, drink a strong coffee and work for what you want. Success and accomplishment don’t grow on trees. Next time you realize you didn’t do half the things you were supposed to just think if that extra time in bed was worth it.
Now let’s look at it from a wider perspective. People are big talkers but when it comes to working almost none of us do what we say we’ll do. Life isn’t a story waiting to be told – it’s a story waiting to be written. While you’re sitting with your friends and telling them how you’re unhappy about something in life, what are you actually doing to change your current situation for the better? NOTHING, you’re doing nothing! Get your lazy ass up and start working to make your life better.
Why do we still expect help from other people? The number of friends and family members you have isn’t equal to the number of doors you can knock at when you’re having a hard time. I know it’s harsh but it’s the truth. If you want something earn it because as long as you owe anything to anyone you’ll never be free. Open up your eyes – nobody will help you unconditionally and you shouldn’t do the same. I don’t want to sound like an iceberg talking but when it comes down to it it’s every man for himself.
This is probably one of the most annoying things I’ve ever had to listen to. People who have their lives planed out – stop being boring! So society told you that you should get a degree, start up a family, have some kids, find a job, pay your rent and bills, send your kids to school, wait for their graduation, retire and then die so you just decided you should do that. I’m support your decision if you’re doing it because you want that life and because you’ll be happy living like that. The problem begins when you accept that lifestyle and feel miserable for the rest of your life because you always feel that something is missing. Venture outside that sketch that you call a life and find your passion. Don’t settle for less than you want. We live in a world where anything is possible but nothing is easy so work until you find happiness no matter what or where it is.
Stop living a static life and, for the love of God, stop waiting for things to happen. Work your ass off and never give up. You’ll probably go through exhaustion, depression, failure and it will all be worth it because you will eventually succeed but first you have to WAKE THE FUCK UP!