Choose yourself

Everyone is so afraid of loneliness that we rarely become aware of the fact that we are actually never alone. While endless thoughts are flying through your head, you are not alone. Loneliness comes creeping up when we lose a friend, our family’s support, when we are single or when we just don’t feel connected to other people. Because of this we often “drown” ourselves so much in other people and please everyone just to keep them around that we become unaware of the damage we are causing to ourselves.

The problem of loneliness isn’t in not having anyone, it’s in not being aware that we have ourselves.

First you have to establish a healthy connection to yourself. You will know when that happens because in that moment loneliness will no longer be a problem and the silence won’t feel so creepy. It’s good to choose yourself. It’s good to work on yourself. It’s good to become a bit introverted in order to find your inner peace.

Putting your own needs ahead of everything else isn’t selfish – it’s necessary! People who will turn their backs on you for doing so don’t have your best interest in heart. I am not trying to say that you should shut the world out and only give yourself all of your attention. Be there for your family and friends but also think about your needs, put yourself as a priority and stop neglecting your needs and dreams. As long as you are not happy you will never be able to fully integrate yourself in the world and that feeling of loneliness will keep on haunting you.

If you are a career oriented person, sometimes you will have to cancel a coffee date or a night out in order to rest and have enough time for your work or studies. There’s no need to feel bad or left out because of it and if your friends or boyfriend/girlfriend criticize you about it that means that your wellbeing isn’t so important for them. Don’t keep your goals and plans quiet. Explain to others why you do what you do and those who sincerely care about you will support you and find a way to understand you.

Every now and then find a night to close the doors on the world, be alone, turn off the internet and work on yourself and on your inner peace, to make clear plans about reaching your goals. Don’t always cater to other people’s need and ignore yours. You are just as important as other people and on your list of priorities you have to write with big capital letters “ME”!

Scratch under the surface

We live in a world of a commercialized life. We sell it on social networks and in the eyes of other people. We have created a superficial picture of what our lives look like and for some deranged reason we are trying to convince ourselves and everyone around us that surface is all there is. Expensive clothes, a rich social life, throwing around cash, making new trends… But where are we under all of that pile of shit?

This trend is specially developed on Instagram. It became the runway for our #ootd and the main weapon we use to show people how good we are having it, how happy we are, the new things we bought, how much fun we are having and I am not using this article to point a finger at anybody. If I wanted to point fingers I would first point it at myself because I do this just like everyone else but what I can’t understand is why is this trend becoming our only reality. We started to forget how to talk to people about our real problems because you can’t have problems when your life has to be picture-perfect with the right caption. Scratching under the surface became an unknown term for us.

That glass surface has to be broken and we have to stop selling ourselves and our worth. Instead of blindly following trends and desperately trying to fit in we should stand out, celebrate our individuality and accept people for who they truly are. All of that polished surface will not buy us a good personality, happiness, love for ourselves and 200 likes on an outfit post or a selfie will never make you feel good about yourself in the long run.

All of us enjoy that little stimulus social networks give us, but we have to draw a line between what is real and what we want to present as real. Reprogram your brain in a way it thinks in the same amount about your actions and attitude as your appearance and the social aspects of your life. Stop hiding yourself in order to fit in. Do you really believe that years of evolution should result in all of us acting, thinking, believing and saying the same thing? We are not born to be robots.

Enjoy a bit in listening to other people, discovering facts about them instead of only looking at their pictures and reading their captions. Scratch under the surface. Learn how to enjoy small, sweet moments of your life instead of looking for Insta-perfect moments to share with the world. When you wake up in the morning don’t immediately turn on your phone to catch up on what’s been going on while you were sleeping. Take a few minutes for yourself to wake up, eat something, arrange your thoughts, think about your plans and to build a positive look on the day ahead of you. Use all of your senses to be completely alive and present. Just, scratch under the surface.

 

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Choose yourself

Everyone is so afraid of loneliness that we rarely become aware of the fact that we are actually never alone. While endless thoughts are flying through your head, you are not alone. Loneliness comes creeping up when we lose a friend, our family’s support, when we are single or when we just don’t feel connected to other people. Because of this we often “drown” ourselves so much in other people and please everyone just to keep them around that we become unaware of the damage we are causing to ourselves.

The problem of loneliness isn’t in not having anyone, it’s in not being aware that we have ourselves.

First you have to establish a healthy connection to yourself. You will know when that happens because in that moment loneliness will no longer be a problem and the silence won’t feel so creepy. It’s good to choose yourself. It’s good to work on yourself. It’s good to become a bit introverted in order to find your inner peace.

Putting your own needs ahead of everything else isn’t selfish – it’s necessary! People who will turn their backs on you for doing so don’t have your best interest in heart. I am not trying to say that you should shut the world out and only give yourself all of your attention. Be there for your family and friends but also think about your needs, put yourself as a priority and stop neglecting your needs and dreams. As long as you are not happy you will never be able to fully integrate yourself in the world and that feeling of loneliness will keep on haunting you.

If you are a career oriented person, sometimes you will have to cancel a coffee date or a night out in order to rest and have enough time for your work or studies. There’s no need to feel bad or left out because of it and if your friends or boyfriend/girlfriend criticize you about it that means that your wellbeing isn’t so important for them. Don’t keep your goals and plans quiet. Explain to others why you do what you do and those who sincerely care about you will support you and find a way to understand you.

Every now and then find a night to close the doors on the world, be alone, turn off the internet and work on yourself and on your inner peace, to make clear plans about reaching your goals. Don’t always cater to other people’s need and ignore yours. You are just as important as other people and on your list of priorities you have to write with big capital letters “ME”!

Link to the article  BAD FEMALE, GO TO YOUR ROOM (and escape through the damn window): https://www.ebay.com/itm/352457536757

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