We live in a world of a commercialized life. We sell it on social networks and in the eyes of other people. We have created a superficial picture of what our lives look like and for some deranged reason we are trying to convince ourselves and everyone around us that surface is all there is. Expensive clothes, a rich social life, throwing around cash, making new trends… But where are we under all of that pile of shit?
This trend is specially developed on Instagram. It became the runway for our #ootd and the main weapon we use to show people how good we are having it, how happy we are, the new things we bought, how much fun we are having and I am not using this article to point a finger at anybody. If I wanted to point fingers I would first point it at myself because I do this just like everyone else but what I can’t understand is why is this trend becoming our only reality. We started to forget how to talk to people about our real problems because you can’t have problems when your life has to be picture-perfect with the right caption. Scratching under the surface became an unknown term for us.
That glass surface has to be broken and we have to stop selling ourselves and our worth. Instead of blindly following trends and desperately trying to fit in we should stand out, celebrate our individuality and accept people for who they truly are. All of that polished surface will not buy us a good personality, happiness, love for ourselves and 200 likes on an outfit post or a selfie will never make you feel good about yourself in the long run.
All of us enjoy that little stimulus social networks give us, but we have to draw a line between what is real and what we want to present as real. Reprogram your brain in a way it thinks in the same amount about your actions and attitude as your appearance and the social aspects of your life. Stop hiding yourself in order to fit in. Do you really believe that years of evolution should result in all of us acting, thinking, believing and saying the same thing? We are not born to be robots.
Enjoy a bit in listening to other people, discovering facts about them instead of only looking at their pictures and reading their captions. Scratch under the surface. Learn how to enjoy small, sweet moments of your life instead of looking for Insta-perfect moments to share with the world. When you wake up in the morning don’t immediately turn on your phone to catch up on what’s been going on while you were sleeping. Take a few minutes for yourself to wake up, eat something, arrange your thoughts, think about your plans and to build a positive look on the day ahead of you. Use all of your senses to be completely alive and present. Just, scratch under the surface.
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3 thoughts on “Scratch under the surface”
It’s true we are immersed in a sanitised world where almost everyone portrays their perfect lives, perfect families, achievements, holidays. But it’s superficial and misleading from the reality.
I have become very disillusioned with Facebook and rarely use it now. My real life is through my writing on my blog and in my poetry.
I could go on but instead I’ll just say ‘great post, brilliantly written’.
Thank you very much for always having such kind, inspiring replies 🙂
“If I wanted to point fingers I would first point it at myself because I do this just like everyone else but what I can’t understand is why is this trend becoming our only reality.”
I think it feeds our ego as a replacement of the socialization we give up for the comfort of the presented persona. Sort of a self-fulfilling prophesy…
We also get to choose exactly how much we want to participate and display. Some folks (like myself) appreciate the anonymity of blogs due to reasons of personal and/or professional necessity. Is it feasible to maintain complete obscurity when posting online? No… but our level of interaction and commitment – mostly to feed the aforementioned monster of ego – determines how much effort we want expended in the process.
I’m not implying that the “commercialized life” of social media is bad; merely, that it is what one wants it to be and how deliberate they are along the way.
“Enjoy a bit in listening to other people, discovering facts about them instead of only looking at their pictures and reading their captions.”