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I’ve been through my share of significant life events in the past 27 years and I think that my perspective change the most regarding other people’s opinions.
I was always a headstrong person and I knew what I wanted. It’s the way I was born and growing up in less than desirable conditions taught me that I just need to push through. “If you are already in hell, just keep walking” is what I always told myself.
But then something changed and I started to become a bit addicted to the approval and opinions of other people and it was the most detrimental thing in my life. I was so desperate to fit in and be accepted that I started changing who I am fundamentally.
In the past few years, I managed to shake it off and realize that people will always talk and have their opinions and some people just don’t want to see you get better or (God forbid) be better than them. I just stopped caring about what everyone had to say. There is a privileged group of people in my life whose opinion I do take into account, but I don’t live by what they have to say either.
If something makes me happy, I will do it. If something doesn’t make me happy I will not do it. This helped me a lot in my writing career because I just stopped overthinking if someone is going to laugh at my creative output, my poetry, my blog posts or anything I share publicly. I am doing this for me, not for the approval of others and I am doing it because it makes my soul happy.
Simply, I learned to seek my own approval first.
People will always talk. All you can do is put your creative work out there, do what makes your soul sing, make decisions that feel right for you and even if you fail, you failed on your own terms and you can start again on your own terms.
Love,
Luna
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I completely agree with you that we should have our thinking and should do what we like regardless of worrying about what others will think or say about us.
Trying to fit in and be accepted by others is akin to driving a Yugo in a Formula 1 race. You will perpetually be behind with zero chance of winning. I spent enough years of my life trying to be accepted by others instead of just happily accepting myself. Excellent post.
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Luna life is like that from day one. you push in to life from your mother’s canal.
I think that establishing yourself and your identity can be difficult, but it’s not wrong to develop personas which you can use to your advantage in social situations. One of the difficult things is that people close to you will see your darkest and lightest sides. Some people attempt to tell themselves that they don’t care wheat anyone thinks of them, but who are they fooling?
Glad to see you made it there!
Well said. Nobody should feel peer pressure or otherwise to change their personality just to ‘fit in.’ What’s that anyway? I’ve always wanted to be ‘eccentric’ ever since I was kid. You can get away with almost anything, that way. 😉 😀
Powerful ending, “All you can do is put your creative work out there, do what makes your soul sing, make decisions that feel right for you and even if you fail, you failed on your own terms and you can start again on your own terms.” 👏
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I like your headliner, it’s become my new mantra 🙂
Finding our own acceptable place in this world is a different struggle for everyone, learning and growing is a beautiful thing 💫
Listening to everyone’s opinions will keep your head spinning. You’ll never be able to make a decision and you won’t know the real you. Nice post 🙂
People can also smile on your face, but still wish you to fail. Keep your head up and as you have said keep pushing forward
In my lifetime I have endured a broken heart so many times, that the only thing to help me through all was writing.
It’s quite right that people will always have their own thoughts about what others do and say. I myself have found, like you, that there are only really few people who hold my attention when they have an opinion, everyone else will have theirs but these arent all that significant. It is the best way to be. Thank you for sharing.
it’s strange coincidence a just few minutes before, i was reading how writing is the most important thing, that boost creativity and improve brain activities. keep doing what you love, that’s a talent given to you.
Excellent post, admirable viewpoint. I’ve always tended to chart my own course as well, but have weighed and accepted or rejected input from my inner circle. Well written, thanks 😎
“Public opinion is a weak tyrant compared with our own private opinion. what a man thinks of himself, that it is which determines, or rather indicates, his fate.” ~ Thoreau
As long as you being,discovering and expressing your self and enjoying your creativity everyday this will make you happy.In the end of the day that’s all that matters and this become our love and conection to ourselves and to the people that want to connect with our anthenticity and happyness.
Have a great creative day!!!
You as well!
First off I think your title is quite appropriate. In reference to the past or passage of time it is literally ever-changing. I wanted to add that although the past can’t be changed you can surely use it to change how you benefit from it. You can Technically change the past by adding to it. Example: When I read what I wrote in the past it made me rethink my future. I basically just added to that moment in time. Here we rub elbows with the past, present and future all at once. Hopefully I didn’t go to far off topic. Lol, I think I wrote enough.
Sometimes when I am looking for answers in life, I often go back and read my old work or my old diary entries just to gain a new perspective so I completely get what you were trying to say
It is one of the toughest things to do in life. Glad you were able to make progress in this!
It’s truly easier said than done.
What you just shared is what I needed most right now. Continue to inspire more and be blessings for many. Thank you for your inspiration🫶🏻
Thank you and I am glad to hear the post was meaningful to you. Just keep following your path!
Yes life is too short to do the things you don’t want to do.
a wise woman once said, “people are always talking, but what happens when the talk isn’t cheap and it is what it is.” love this post, luna! 🙂
thank you!
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❤️Hugs❤️ The older you get the more your outlook on life changes. You see life from a different perspective. Life is more about enjoying the journey, learning new things about yourself and being creative. Learning to live life as simply as possible without being overwhelmed and stressed. It improves your mental health and wellbeing.
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Beautiful name Luna, same as me. And I believe we are not meant to fit in anywhere, just to follow our own path
Trying to be accepted is the worst thing that unconsciously anyone can do, once you stop your able to find yourself.
I agree!
Hey Luna i get how u r feeling becoz i’m currently battling the same thing at the moment , although i’m not really sure what the real non-acceptance is with me
I get it, we all go through it. What I found helpful is writing a diary. I kind of do it in the form of dialogue with myself and often come to conclusions and realizations I didn’t know where inside of me all along. I suggest you try it out and see how it goes.
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Luna, your reflection on how significant life events and the passage of time have shaped your perspective on life, particularly regarding others’ opinions, is truly inspiring. It’s admirable how you’ve navigated through the pressures of seeking approval and have emerged with a stronger sense of self and a commitment to doing what makes your soul happy. This evolution in your outlook is not only a testament to your resilience but also serves as a powerful message for others who might be grappling with similar challenges.
Your journey towards self-approval and putting your creative work out there, irrespective of external validation, resonates deeply. It’s a reminder of the importance of staying true to oneself and the liberating power of embracing one’s own path.
I’m curious, during those moments of transition, what was the pivotal moment or realization that helped you start to detach from the weight of others’ opinions and focus more on your own happiness and creative expression?
Thank you for your comment! To answer your question, I think that the pivotal moment for me came in my early 20is when I figured out I was trying to reach goals others deemed worthy instead of reaching for the things that truly made me happy. I ended up leaving school, losing friends, working jobs I hate just to get by and I was constantly suffering because I felt like I disappointed everyone with my choices and then, in the middle of my full blown identity crisis, it just dawned on me that the people around me aren’t living my life and my choices aren’t influencing them, but me. That was when I turned inwards and, still, I am trying to figure out who I am and what my place is in this world. It gets hard sometimes but I think I managed to build a lot of faith in myself and believe that I will figure it out. Also, therapy helped a lot!
The easiest way to live a happy and fulfilled life is to have a connection with GOD. He is very simple to please, okay look at it this way! He tells you what to do and how to do it and what’s more you still get paid for doing it. Isn’t He awesome? You cannot and will never be able to please humans completely if not at all. But with GOD He Still forgives even the intended acts so long you asked sincerely.
Wowww she just said my mind. I’m completely detached and not take anything personal now not allowing anybody or anything to bring me doww
And that’s the best way to live, at the end of the day we live this life inside of our own skin, not someone else’s opinion.
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I’m cuckoo for Coco Puffs! Such a cute idea, I too am culinary challenged. But I’ll do dishes and take out trash for food! ☺️
And that’s how we should all be. There is no point in thinking of what others think. Love the post and keep going, you’re doing amazing🤍!
Thank you!
Wow, I can see what you are saying. We all go through it. Maybe one day you can pick yourself back up and be better than ever. I know you got it in you. I might download your book. Keep writing and maybe it will get somewhere. As long as you approve of yourself, that’s all that matters
Thank you! If you get the book, I hope you will like it 🙂
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this concept is actually so right and intriguing that we are so even at times evolved with world others thought process their relections but we forget our own,great reminder btw!!!
Nice job on the book!!
Thank you!
Wonderful post 🌹
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Hi Lina , greatly said. you’ve found a sense of liberation from the fear of judgment or external validation. This newfound perspective has enabled us to overcome overthinking and confidently share our creative output with the world, knowing that our authenticity shines through regardless of others’ opinions. I love that you’ve empowered yourself to take ownership of your decisions and experiences, paving the way for continued growth and resilience.
Thank you for this lovely comment!
Agreed, you can’t and need not please everyone. Glad your spirit is strong!
Sage words from one of soul sisters: you can’t be everyone’s cup of tea and there’s absolutely no problem with that. Sharing my story with you about the forces in life that continue to change the way I see things: https://thedumalady.wordpress.com/
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Fear of being inadequate almost stopped me from blogging. Now I love it. Everyone has something to offer.
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I couldn’t agree more. I am glad you overcame your fears!