*Before I get started, my first novel is out and you can get it for free for a limited time only: Little Rebellion
I’ve been through my share of significant life events in the past 27 years and I think that my perspective change the most regarding other people’s opinions.
I was always a headstrong person and I knew what I wanted. It’s the way I was born and growing up in less than desirable conditions taught me that I just need to push through. “If you are already in hell, just keep walking” is what I always told myself.
But then something changed and I started to become a bit addicted to the approval and opinions of other people and it was the most detrimental thing in my life. I was so desperate to fit in and be accepted that I started changing who I am fundamentally.
In the past few years, I managed to shake it off and realize that people will always talk and have their opinions and some people just don’t want to see you get better or (God forbid) be better than them. I just stopped caring about what everyone had to say. There is a privileged group of people in my life whose opinion I do take into account, but I don’t live by what they have to say either.
If something makes me happy, I will do it. If something doesn’t make me happy I will not do it. This helped me a lot in my writing career because I just stopped overthinking if someone is going to laugh at my creative output, my poetry, my blog posts or anything I share publicly. I am doing this for me, not for the approval of others and I am doing it because it makes my soul happy.
Simply, I learned to seek my own approval first.
People will always talk. All you can do is put your creative work out there, do what makes your soul sing, make decisions that feel right for you and even if you fail, you failed on your own terms and you can start again on your own terms.
Love,
Luna
My new book is out and it’s free for a limited time only: Identity crisis
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