The main reasons why we get frustrated are people around us who do something to upset us or are just mean to us. Well, that’s a lie.
The source of stress and anger in your life is you because only you have the power to control the things that get to you. I’m not saying you have full control, because we all know that sometimes it’s just one of those days when nothing goes right and we get frustrated at everyone and we can’t control our emotions.
Now let’s cancel out those days and talk about the thing you do control such as the way you look at people.
- YOU NEVER KNOW
This is probably something that I should have learned a long time ago but I didn’t. I’m a judgmental person and what I see is what I judge or at least I used to. For the last year I just realized that you can’t say what somebody is feeling until you walk in their shoes for a day or two.
And what is most important, you can never say you have it harder than someone else. Just because somebody has a smile on their face doesn’t mean they are happy and just because somebody has money doesn’t mean they have it all. Don’t feel superior then someone else just because you think you have more problems but you’re still handling everything better than someone who seems as if they have everything served on a silver plate. I hope that this is making sense because this is the first time I have a problem with expressing myself…
- DON’T GIVE A DAMN
“I don’t give a damn” is probably one of my most used sentences. I just don’t give a damn about many things such as people’s opinion. Now, I’m not one of those people who will do what they want and won’t listen to what others have to say. I’m one of those people who will pick the people with which I share a mutual love and respect and I will care about their opinion.
Where the hell do you expect to go in life if you care about every single opinion in this world? Nobody, and listen to me carefully, nobody is good enough to fit everyone’s standards – not even you so stop trying! Just have a circle of trust around yourself and give credit to the people who deserve it. If that circle of trust only includes one person, and that person is you, don’t get scared. Remember what I said in my post Expectations – “The day you learn to stand alone will be the day you become invincible.’’ The right people will come along the way, just keep on going.
- IT’S NOT YOUR LIFE
Why do you care what other people do? And by that I mean, why do you compare yourself to others? When you do it you just poison your own mind in a despicable way because comparing leads to social deprivation – don’t do that shit to yourself. While you were checking what’s new with the girl/boy you actually hate you could have been working on becoming a better person. You have one life, it’s your life, it’s the only life you control and the only life you should be 100% involved in. Get your nose out of other people’s business and believe me that all of that poison will just disappear from your life.
- LEARN TO WALK AWAY
This is something I still didn’t completely learn how to do. Just turn around and walk away. One step at a time. Just walk away from the people who do nothing for you but expect everything from you. Stay the hell away from people who talk much but do nothing. Turn your back on those who only used you to do their work, their homework, to be their therapist, to listen to their drama without ever paying attention to you. There is only one situation in which you shouldn’t walk away. When it comes to hypocrites you shouldn’t really walk away. You should tell them what you think, swing your leg strong enough to kick them in the butt and kick them out of your life. Amen to that!
I realized that this post is humongous, so I’ll stop here and make a sequel some other day or just take some themes I want to work through more thoroughly. What I was actually trying to say all the time is that you can’t change people around you but you can change yourself and when you manage to do that you’ll find happiness.
Now you tell me, what’s the thing you want to change in the way you see and treat other people? 😉
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2 thoughts on “Change yourself, not the world”
I would love to see people’s worth based on them simply being a person, and not based on things like appearance, intelligence, behaviour, status, etc. I would like cultural and societal biases not to affect how I see people.