Hello everyone and welcome to another Coffee Date with Luna!
Have you ever looked at someone and thought to yourself how that person has just got everything handled, they are always on top of their game, they take care of everything and still have time to be there for their friends?
If the answer is yes, I would like to advise you to check up on that friend/girlfriend/boyfriend/sister/brother etc.
People who are very self-reliant tend to forget to ask for help. They do not want to be a burden to anyone or they just don’t know how to show their weaknesses or share their struggles. They become so used to taking care of themselves, that they don’t know how to reach out when the going gets rough.
Yes, most of the time self-reliant people don’t need anyone and they got their life handled, but everyone breaks. Everyone needs to hear that everything is going to be okay, they need someone to hug them, help them out or just be there for them in some way.
It’s unfortunate when self-reliant people reach out, tell someone about some issue they have been having and the reply from the other side begins with “I am sorry to hear this” and then they start talking about themselves and their problems, experiences etc. because they do not perceive the person on the other side as someone who has needs or is seeking help and support.
I think that self-reliant people are very strong and capable of achieving a lot of things but every now and then they need a “Did you eat?”, “Text me when you get home”, “Something seems wrong, do you want to talk about it”
Check up on your friends. Call them, send a message, invite them out for coffee, try to understand them and be there for them when needed.
This was a rather short post, but I felt like talking a bit about these types of people. I hope you liked the post and that you will tell me in the comments what would you like to read about in the next Coffee Date with Luna.
Sending love and positive vibes,